Not gonna lie; I most certainly indulge in what I
affectionately refer to as “brain rot” media. This varies from gossip
magazines, reality shows, all the way to some gossip sites like The Dirty and
She’s a Homewrecker. I’m not really sure why I find such entertainment so
amusing, but I do. Maybe it’s the idea that there are people out there who
really are crazier than I am, and they don’t have any shame about it. I’ve
noticed a common similarity on some of these. There’s a lot of finger-pointing.
I read through the stories on She’s a Homewrecker at least once or twice a week
(or day…whatever…). I get the idea that it’s a site for exposing the “other
person”, thus punishing them for intruding into your relationship. It never ceases
to amaze me how many victims there are.
I don’t mean the scorned wives (and sometimes husbands). I
don’t mean the hurt children. Apparently, the person who has done the cheating
is a victim. The way these stories are worded, you’d think they were held at
gunpoint and ordered to be unfaithful. I see it every time I look on there: “She
lured my husband…” “He took advantage of my wife…” “She ruined my family….” “He
cost me my marriage…”. It’s ridiculous. I personally don’t agree with any of
those statements. The “homewrecker” had a hand in it, yes, but they didn’t act
alone. That husband that was “lured” to do dirty things? He had a choice. He
knew he had a wife (and sometimes children) at home. He was free to say no, and
chose not to. He made the choice. The same goes for the wife who was supposedly
taken advantage of. When I hear that phrase, I think of rape. I was taken
advantage of when I was 18. I thought I was grown enough to drink, and didn’t
take into consideration that the people around me weren’t people I trusted. It
cost me my virginity and a long-time friendship. Do not tell me that by
tempting your wife or girlfriend with an affair, someone “took advantage” of
them. Your spouse was weak, they slipped up, and they left you to deal with the
aftermath.
I am particularly disgusted with a woman who uses
terminology like that to explain why her idiot husband cheated on her. I
actually have a friend who was put on the Homewrecker site. She slept with a
married man. It was the typical “He said they were divorcing” story. He’d taken
it a step further, though. Not only were he and wifey-dearest separated, they
weren’t living together. He’d changed his status to single. Then he started the
affair with my friend. I personally wouldn’t piss on the husband if he were on
fire, as I know him personally, and he can best be described as an evil,
manipulative, sadistic megalomaniac. What this fool has pulled in the 10+ years
I’ve known him is beyond sickening. The wife he separated from had just found
out that she was pregnant. He apparently wasn’t ready to settle down, so he
asked her to leave. Once she found out about my friend, she put her on blast on
the website. Describing the affair, she proclaimed, “She knew he was married she
knew I was pregnant yet she continued….She helped ruin everything!” She
seems to think her husband was taken advantage of. Husband knew more so than
anyone that he was married and had a baby on the way. He still chose another
woman over his wife and child. Yes, shame on my friend for getting involved with
someone before seeing divorce papers, but as guilty as she was, the jackass she
slept with is every bit as guilty.
Moving on.
I watch Love and Hip Hop (Hollywood, Atlanta, New York, etc…)
RELIGIOUSLY. Nothing cracks me up more than the sight of Young Joc strapped to
a bed getting his ass handed to him by his then-girlfriend after she caught him
being a man-whore. She cuffed him to the bed, beat his ass, and left him there
trussed up like a turkey! There’s a girl on another version of the show who
apparently got pregnant by a very famous artist. I’ve seen some of the
headlines that are popping up about it. She’s claiming he “got her pregnant on
purpose”.
I’m sorry, what??
YOU made the conscious decision to have unprotected
sex. This is not a one-sided deal. You weren’t FORCED to have sex with this
person, and at your age, especially if you’re having sex at all, you should
know that sex without some sort of contraceptive CAN RESULT IN PREGNANCY. He
refused to wear a condom? Bet. You can refuse to give him any. You’re not on
the pill, shot, IUD, whatever? You may ought to stand your ground and demand
that your partner wrap it up.
These people seem to think that humans don’t have free will
of any kind. They are unable to say, “No, I have a
wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend at home.” God put all of us on this earth
with free will. That means you as an adult, have the freedom and right to say “No
glove, no love.” It’s absolutely laughable to hear someone say, “He got me
pregnant on purpose.” As a woman, it’s your responsibility as much as it is
your partners to make sure that doesn’t happen if you’re not ready to be a
parent. If you don’t understand the concept of all of this, maybe you shouldn’t
be having sex in the first place.
Thoughts on this?
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